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For the most part, this blog is powered by coffee. Lots and lots of coffee.
And I would be remiss to forget the toddler kisses. Every post is hammered out with the chime of "I sit with you, Mom!" in the background. Most paragraphs have "aczqfqqqq" in them at one point or another as little toddler feet get situated on my lap while I type.
I don't have daycare. I don't have a nanny. I run this muth' from home, in a semi-undressed state, with dishes in the sink and two little boys hanging from my limbs. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
Okay, I would like a housekeeper and to have our babysitter come in a few times a week, but I'm working on that. Unfortunately, both like to be paid in cash rather than flowery prose, and I'm short on one and long on the other.
When you make the choice to stay at home rather than rake in the paychecks from an office outside of the home, you also make the choice to accept a handful of compromises. Not the least of which is a distinct lack of disposable income. So, if you are a stay-at-home mom with an internet connection, you figure out ways to make that work for you. Because, you know, we are made of time and bon-bons here.
A few months ago, I bought my pass to the annual BlogHer blogging
conference with a credit card that I literally had to wipe the dust from before I used it. I knew that I'd also have to come up with money to pay for a flight from Gulfport, Mississippi to San Francisco, California, as well as pay for a handful of nights in a hotel room. I did not have the money to pay for any of this.
In short, I was doing a bit of "fake it til you make it." In fact, I've been faking that I could even go to BlogHer every single moment of the planning process for The People's Party. Kevin Costner and Ray Liotta swear that if you build it, they will come... so that works with blogging, too, right?
Arianne says that "to think is to create." Let's see how far we can take that theory...
I do not advocate using credit cards other than for emergencies, but I was tired of my desktop crashing and needed a computer. After this final crash, it was still in the geek shop going on almost a month. This was not working for this blogger here, as I was simultaneously trying to launch an online magazine and attend to the needs of sponsors and party guests on their way to BlogHer with eyes set on free drinks and fun music. I needed a reliable computer.
Sometimes it just takes being at the right place at the right time for the digital 1's and 0's to align into stars.
While looking for a replacement TV and trying to not look shocked that TVs cost a minimum of $300 now, I wandered into the laptop section of our local Best Buy. All I was trying to do was buy myself some time and distance from the TV sales clerk so I could slip out the door empty-handed. And then... I fell in love.
I've never used a laptop before. I knew that they contained some kind of magical device that would let you work online from the comfort of your couch or backyard or bathroom floor, but I had never experienced such geek bliss. I never knew what I was missing, people. Why didn't you tell me?
While wandering the laptop aisles, a glossy 17" screen and full size keyboard caught my eye. Encouraged by a surprisingly low price tag, I dared touch this magical piece of technology called "HP Pavilion." It was like... mmmmmagic.
The click of the keyboard! The width of the screen promising multiple windows open at the same time! The spajillions of gigabytes of hard drive! She must be mine!
And so she is. I sit here now, on my couch, with babies by my side, tickling little toes into my leg and smooshing soft kisses on my cheek, all the while typing away like there's no tomorrow and editing hasn't been invented, yet.
Arianne says "to think is to create." She also says, "Ask for what you need. Ask for help."
And so I did. Armed with my new laptop and productivity to put Martha Stewart to shame, I asked for help to get to BlogHer. You won't believe who answered the call...
HP.
With the help of HP, I am going to BlogHer with just enough sponsorship that I won't have to sell my liver in order to pay the credit card bill. Which is a good thing because I plan to put my liver through its paces at the parties this week.
The funny thing is, this is not the first time HP has reached out to me.
A few nights after Hurricane Katrina, after evacuating with only a few days' worth of clothes and a couple of photo albums, I sat down at a relative's computer and visited Snapfish, which had only recently joined up with HP. We had bought a digital camera only a few months before and I had made a habit of immediately uploading every photo we took of our new baby to Snapfish, you know, just in case.
As it turned out, Snapfish was the only insurance policy that would be paying out for quite a while.
I sat and marveled at photos of our home, at the things that had made up our lives and were now marinating at the bottom of the Gulf of Mexico. I sat and thanked all that was good and all that was foresight for the fact that I had used Snapfish to store our photos.
And then I wrote them a letter. And I told them just that.
What followed was a handful of months of correspondence between me, Snapfish, and their parent company, HP. In the days after Katrina, everyone wanted a face to put with the disaster, and I provided a face. I provided a story. I also provided an outlet for their desire to help.
Shortly after I shared my late-night story of gratitude with Snapfish, they extended an offer to all of their customers on the Gulf Coast, issuing enough credits to enable all of us to reprint every single photo we had stored with Snapfish.
HP gave us something to hold in our hands during a time when most of us had nothing to hold other than each other.
Now, almost three years later, they are helping me again. Thank you, HP.
So, I will be at BlogHer and I'll be there with a fancy new HP Pavilion laptop. You'll be able to spot me because I'll be toting that laptop in one of the few cool laptop totes I could find that would fit a 17" screen.
Just look at this awesome laptop tote I found from Janine King Designs
on etsy! It is simply... me. And because I am a dolt and despite the fact that I know better, that snazzy designer was willing to do a rush job for me and deliver my tote before I left for BlogHer, even though she clearly spells out her delivery times in her policies.
Real people. This blog is powered by real people. Real people that pay attention to their customers and attend to their needs as much as they can.
There was a bit of a ruckus recently when someone somewhere complained that some of our blogs have just become link blogs with very little content. I disagree. I say that our blogs have broken out of our heads and our asses (where our heads reside most of the time) and acknowledge the people that keep these exercises in ego running. We can't always do it all by ourselves.
Sometimes we need to ask for help. And we are nothing but gracious when those calls are answered.
With that, allow me to take one more moment of your time and two more clicks of your mouse and introduce you to the two newest sponsors of The People's Party:

Most of you already know 5 Minutes for Mom, as it was the first stop in mom blogs for most of us starting out. They have a gorgeous new design and a handful of new sister sites, so if you haven't been there lately, do check it out.
A new service that you may not be familiar with, though, is Consumer Pop. A new marketing consultation and blogger concierge service, Consumer Pop helps you build, as well as understand, your brand, offering dynamic approaches to reaching out to your audience and satisfying their needs. They are new on the scene and would love to tell you more about what they can do for you so that you can do more for your audience!
...So that's it for me for a couple of days. On Tuesday and Wednesday, I'll have guest posts from two of our sponsors of The People's Party and I
sincerely encourage you to stop by and get to know them. Learn what they are about, why they are going to BlogHer, and how they can work with you, regardless of whether or not you are going to BlogHer.
Then? Well, then I won't talk about BlogHer much other than perhaps a round-up of the weekend and what I may or may not have learned. Oh yeah, and very possibly some photographs of The Bloggess licking motherbumper.
At the very least, stop by on Thursday for a link to the live feed of The People's Party. I'll be sending shout-outs to you, in particular, so you won't want to miss it!
Now... reach out and connect. Ask yourself what you need and go make it happen. After all, to think is to create...
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i applaud HP and snapfish !!!
Posted by: feener | July 14, 2008 at 11:50 AM
Gulfport? That's where my oldest is right now, and I have a bundle of relatives there. Cool.
Ask and ye shall receive, my friend!
Posted by: Headless Mom | July 14, 2008 at 11:52 AM
I have an HP Pavilion laptop and I love it with a passion. All of our desktops are HP, too.
Good folks there at HP.
See you at BLogHer!
Posted by: Busy Mom | July 14, 2008 at 12:01 PM
Kick. ass.
Posted by: Jenny, bloggess | July 14, 2008 at 12:03 PM
Kick. ass.
Posted by: Jenny, bloggess | July 14, 2008 at 12:03 PM
Great post. Look forward to meeting you in SF.
Posted by: merlotmom | July 14, 2008 at 12:04 PM
Someone's been reading The Secret. ;)
So glad things are falling into place, Megan. Couldn't happen to a nicer gal.
Posted by: Crash Test Mommy | July 14, 2008 at 12:06 PM
Hooray for HP! I hope to get a chance to meet you at BlogHer. :)
Posted by: workout mommy | July 14, 2008 at 12:07 PM
HP is amazing - I love them even more now and I'll head straight to Snapfish to check them out. That kind of business needs to be rewarded with loyalty.
So glad all is working out - see you soon!
Posted by: Amy in OHio | July 14, 2008 at 12:08 PM
You make your own luck, darlin', and you have worked hard for all of this. Have a great weekend! I'm bummed I won't be there this year, but maybe next! Travel safely.
Posted by: Deb (Missives From Suburbia) | July 14, 2008 at 12:08 PM
Megan, you just made me read your Victor Vito post again, and quite frankly, I wasn't emotionally prepared to go down that road again so early on a Monday - I've only had three diet cokes and NO coffee.
I'm so relieved that you are not only going to BlogHer, but that you found a way there that isn't going to cause financial stress down the line.
Posted by: heather | July 14, 2008 at 12:08 PM
Can I just say how much I Love You! Thank you for being such a bright light in the blogosphere!!!
Posted by: Kat | July 14, 2008 at 12:09 PM
Thank goodness. I am so happy that things fell into place for you. Have a wonderful time.
Posted by: Jess | July 14, 2008 at 12:14 PM
Congrats on the new laptop! Does he or she have a name? :)
Have a great time at Blogher!
Posted by: Amanda - The Mom Crowd | July 14, 2008 at 12:20 PM
Megan,
I am so very thankful for the powers that be that are making this trip possible for you. I have absolutely been on your end of that stretched painfully thin thread and it's awesome to see someone (HP) step up and be a company that care. THAT ROCKS!
Do great things at BlogHer!
--Anissa @ Hope4Peyton
Posted by: Anissa @ Hope4Peyton | July 14, 2008 at 12:28 PM
AWESOME! Corporate gifts. I'm gonna start sending mail to Reese's. Wouldn't that be sweet to get Reese's on your team? I don't know who wouldn't want their products pitched on a site with vagina in the title.
Posted by: Black Hockey Jesus | July 14, 2008 at 12:35 PM
What Jenny said!
Posted by: Alli ~Mrs. Fussypants | July 14, 2008 at 12:46 PM
This is awesome, and fascinating to me because I have always wondered how to get to a place where I would make enough from writing to only work part time and finish school.
I applaud you!
Posted by: flutter | July 14, 2008 at 01:20 PM
So glad you'll be making it to your own party! Hope to meet you there. And thanks for the reminder to ask for what I need. I better get on that...
Posted by: Jennifer/The Word Cellar | July 14, 2008 at 01:35 PM
Wow! Congrats Megan!! That's so awesome!
Posted by: sam | July 14, 2008 at 03:01 PM
I heart you, and this post. You reached out, and you were rewarded for that. Asking for what we need usually works. Crazy, huh?
Posted by: To Think Is To Create | July 14, 2008 at 03:05 PM
Btw, I posted about being a stay at home mom worker who juggles everything today:
http://www.tothinkistocreate.com/2008/07/14/the-stay-at-home-mom-worker/
Posted by: To Think Is To Create | July 14, 2008 at 03:07 PM
HP rocks. They helped me get there, too. Arianne rocks. She is my roomie. And I can't wait to meet you at the partay. I'm sure you rock, too.
Steph
Posted by: Adventures In Babywearing | July 14, 2008 at 03:12 PM
that is so awesome! what a great story to share. i can't wait to meet you at blogher. you've been an amazing editor for us at blog nosh, and meeting you will be amazing.
Posted by: Lara | July 14, 2008 at 04:28 PM
We love HP too! :) I also bought an HP laptop and I love it. :)
Can't wait to see you at the party!
Posted by: Janice (5 Minutes for Mom) | July 14, 2008 at 06:15 PM
I've been waffling between an HP and a MAC even though I have a turbulent history w/MAC. Your post may have just helped me decide. I'm impressed HP and Snapfish came through for you.
See you at the party! Can't wait!
Posted by: Lara | July 14, 2008 at 06:22 PM
Yep, working from the couch is all kinds of awesome! Just watch out for what falls into the couch :)
I am so happy for you that you got what you needed to make BlogHer happen for you. I'm going to remember that next year when I'm scraping up the money to go - I will make it happen.
Fantastic post, as usual.
Posted by: catnip | July 14, 2008 at 06:35 PM
Cute bag!
I understand how you feel. I'm kinda wishing HP would contact me and sponsor me like they've done for so many others. Hello, HP? Unemployed household here, but non-refundable flight already purchased.
Can't wait to see your new laptop. I have an older HP laptop that works better than any other computer I've ever had.
Posted by: Christina | July 14, 2008 at 09:15 PM
I am sitting on my fave chair with feet up right now using my laptop. It is a joy.
Hmm, reach out eh?
You know what I need? I would love for someone to do some snazzy graphic design for my blogs.
Have fun at blogHer.
Posted by: blogversary | July 14, 2008 at 10:02 PM
What a great story, and what an act of faith to, as you put it, fake it till you make it. Sometimes that's what you have to do.:)
I'm in a similar position with a conference in August...I was looking at Manhattan hotel rooms today and freaking out. You've given me a reminder to just keep swimming.
Have a great time at Blogher, and I'll definitely swing by for The People's Party!
Posted by: Rock and Roll Mama | July 14, 2008 at 10:04 PM
Hooray for freebies! I LOVE (okay, "loved" - past tense) my Pavilion until she died. Did you know you can cook it in the oven at 260 degrees and it will come out no worse for wear? I do! Sadly, it's no match for a full glass of preschooler's water. Sigh. I'm totally giving your laptop a hug at BlogHer. Would that be weird?
Posted by: andi | July 14, 2008 at 11:01 PM
Megan, thanks for always pointing out that those walls we all put up don't really exist and that there's no reason to be afraid of each other or of situations that look scary. It's also good to know that there actually can be a "make it" part in that whole "fake it till you make it" equation. Congrats on all the good things!
Have a blast at BlogHer, I know you will!
Posted by: Heather | July 15, 2008 at 01:34 AM
Awesome! This is an amazing story -- I hope you have a fantastic weekend!
Posted by: whymommy | July 15, 2008 at 03:34 PM
This post made me happy, like warm and tingly happy. Want to sing show tunes happy.
Can't wait to meet you at BlogHer.
Posted by: Nina | July 15, 2008 at 04:57 PM
The Bloggess better keep her little tongue off my Bumper or there'll be hell to pay. Heh.
Can't wait to meet you. For real and in person! Whoot!
Posted by: Redneck Mommy | July 15, 2008 at 06:18 PM
What an inspiring post! I can SO relate. I'm really looking forward to meeting you. And congrats on your new lap top. Mine of the sexy red sheath just arrived on Monday. I am blissful, too.
Posted by: JCK | July 16, 2008 at 04:47 PM